For my whole life I’ve always been a “glass half full” kind of person. I think my loving upbringing plays a factor into that, but I’ve always been inquisitive and empathetic, as well. One time in my life when I was at one of my lowest points was at the end of a toxic relationship. I was with a person who’d been my friend for about five years before we got together, and everything went to hell within the three and a half years that we were a couple.
Anyway, I met someone through him who was such a negative person. Just being around this individual was draining, it was like she was an energy vampire, feeding off of my energy with her endless bitching and moaning. You know, I don’t mind complaining, so long as it’s not in every single sentence that leaves your lips. Goodness knows that I complain plenty, and I have a very comfortable life, relatively speaking.
And after meeting this “energy vampire” I made a vow to myself then and there that I’d never let the happenings of life affect me in such a manner as hers. But, I tell you, it is difficult. It’s hard to be optimistic these days. Seemingly, there’s just one thing after the other, with no real solution in sight because people refuse to admit that they were wrong. There are many Americans who are feeling the same way I do over SCOTUS’ decision to overturn Roe VS Wade, and I liken it a bit to shock and grief.
So, what’s helped keep me above water so that I don’t drown in the deep sea of depression and bitterness? I’ll go ahead and credit my willpower a little bit for this one! I don’t submit, really, ever, so if it’s a matter of pride, so be it! And, of course, I surround myself with positive influences, who only lift me up and encourage me to be my best self.
I’ve always had a fun sense of humor so I try to follow Juno Birch’s advice which is to laugh everyday and also to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you’re gorgeous everyday. (If you haven’t heard of Juno Birch and are looking for a pick-me-up, check out her acct on YouTube!) Laughter and hugs are fabulous ways to blow off steam and help shed a few cynical cells. I feel like they’re quite easily built up these days and it’s our duty to combat them. Or else they root.
I don’t want to think about a world with no more kindness. I believe that the meaning of life is to do kind things for others, and I try to practice that at every chance I come across! Sometimes I do feel as though I’ve built myself into a box because I’m always cheerful, and I mean it when I say it.
Instead of an RBF (resting bitch face) I have an RSF (resting smiling face) ’cause God-forbid I let anybody think I’m not blissfully satisfied with life! It’s finding that balance that I’m working on. Er, should be working on, apparently! It’s interesting the type of self-discovers that can be made through the written word, isn’t it. I couldn’t be more thrilled to pursue this all more deeply as this blog continues to take shape.
Thank you for being here, dear reader! Please join my Revolution of Kindness and perform as many acts of kindness as your boundaries allow! The world needs it immensely! 🪄